Men with stronger handshakes are more likely to get MARRIED

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Scientists found the firmer a man’s grip, the more likely he was to be married
However, the same link was not present for women, according to the experts
Weak grip strength signifies poor overall health and predicts premature death
The study analysed data from 5,000 adults from the Norwegian city Tromsø
Women are more likely to marry men with strong handshakes, research suggests.

Scientists discovered the firmer a man’s grip, the more likely he was to be married.

However, the same link was not present for women, according to the Columbia University researchers.

Grip strength has long been considered a measure of health, with stronger grips being linked to a lesser risk of heart disease and even death.

But the new study, which used data from more than 5,000 adults, was the first to show a link between grips and marriage.

The firmer a man’s grip, the more likely he was to be married. However, the same link was not present for women, according to the Columbia University researchers +1
The firmer a man’s grip, the more likely he was to be married. However, the same link was not present for women, according to the Columbia University researchers

Study author Dr Vegard Skirbekk said: ‘Our results hint that women may be favouring partners who signal strength and vigour when they marry.’

He suggested this could be because women prefer healthier men, who won’t need to be cared for in old-age as much.

Dr Skirbekk warned more attention needs to be paid to me with weak grips, given the body of evidence that shows it could signal poor health.

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And they won’t have an eagle-eyed partner looking out for them, which some studies have suggested could lead them to an early grave.

He described this as a ‘double burden’ and called for social policy intervention to help men with weak grips, including housing arrangements and counselling.

Participants in the study were asked to squeeze a vigorimeter – an instrument which measures grip strength using a rubber balloon.

COULD A FIRM HANDSHAKE COULD GET YOU A JOB?
A study in 2008 looked at 98 undergraduates taking part in mock interviews with businesses.

As each was graded on their overall performance, five ‘handshake raters’ also marked them on their grip, strength, duration, vigour and eye contact.

Professor Greg Stewart, from the University of Iowa, who led the study, said those who scored highly with the handshake raters were also considered to be the most likely to be by the interviewers.

Students with ‘wimpy’ shakes were judged to be timider and less impressive.

The study also found women with a firm handshake were likely to be evaluated more favourably than their male counterparts.

The study contained two groups of people – one group included individuals born between 1923 and 1935 and the other from 1936 to 1948.

Grip strength was assessed when the participants were aged 59 to 71, according to the study published in the journal SSM-Population Health.

And it found the group born after 1935 had a greater number of unmarried men with low grip strength than the group born before them.

The findings, published in the journal SSM-Population Health, are thought to be a result of societal trends which have lessened the importance of marriage.

Other studies have found men with strong handshakes are less likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction and cope better on their own.

This effect is thought to be due to more blood being pumped around the body in individuals who have high hand strength.

While University College London research in 2010 found a weak grip can predict a greater risk of premature death.

And Manchester University scientists last week found there was some truth in the saying ‘healthy body, healthy mind’.

They found people with a stronger hand grip are better at problem-solving, memory tests and reasoning, and have faster reaction times.

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Real Sex Lives: “Having no intimacy with her for 23 years is killing me.”

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Cortesy of Jill Hamilton

(You have arrived in the midst of a grand celebration in which we’re re-running IBWMW’s all-time greatest Real Sex Lives stories.)

Today’s truth teller is crazy madly in love with his wife, but his wife is physical–and possibly emotionally–unable to have sex with him. And that’s pretty much been the story for the last 23 years.Where does that leave him? That’s what he’s trying to figure out.

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Ever hear of “vulvodynia”? Me neither until I read about it. It’s one of those woman-things that’s quite real but insurance companies don’t pay for diagnostics or treatment for whatever excuse they’re using on a given day. The scuttlebutt is it can take up to ten grand to find out. Then there’s not a whole that can be done about it. She doesn’t have an official diagnosis. But when you’ve been around Her for over a decade and you both know the exact nature of the problem, when you read the symptomology, it’s not rocket science, no matter what the insurance bastards have to say.

All those blissful billions of nerve endings sistas have, in Her they experience a massive malfunction when stimulated. Instead of pleasure, they send PAIN! to Her brain. And they don’t all agree with each other across the topography of Her magic places; up near the clitoris, they say PAIN!, along the outside of the labia 5 mm from the bottom they say YAHOO!, inside the all-powerful opening, they say everything from WTH? to PAIN! To YAHOO to JEEBUS WTF ARE YOU DOIN’?! So yeah, so much for the science lesson and now that we know the problem has a medical name, my husband-guilt goes into overdrive—I may NEED sex, most preferably with Her, but if it hurts Her, then “sex” just turns into the thing I have to “sacrifice”—or else I’m a selfish male asshole, isn’t that how it goes? Once sex is out of the equation, all the “other” problems that come with 23 years married and quarter century living with Her go into a slow nuclear burn.

 

She was the girl I “did the right thing” by… I was abstinent until our wedding night because that was how She wanted it and I wanted to be with Her more than any other girl I’d ever been around, let alone those I’d been with before Her. She rolls her eyes every time I say it, but it’s the authentic truth: I saw Her in her younger sister’s dorm room and that was it, no other female human being had any appeal to me whatsoever. It wasn’t my “other brain” that sang, it was the whole deal, head to toe, both brains included. I must have done something right that first night out because we began to see each other a lot, She drove five hours to see me, I moved to her town first chance I had so five hours was five minutes. I wrote her mammoth love letters, I wrote songs for her that my band played at gigs, I photographed the daylights out of her although she protested (a lot). We got married [too] young. Her mom wrote her a letter trying to talk her out of marrying a 23 year old musician/photographer/writer —“dreamer” was what her mom said, and I think “loser” was in there somewhere; thankfully FIL-to-be loved me. I was working-class like him but college educated and could spend hours under the hood of an old car with him and honestly have a great time. He’s quite possibly the most honourable guy I’ve ever met.

Then came the wedding night. She was the fourth virgin I’d been with out of a dozen others from the time I was fifteen (I know that makes me a high school and college boy-slut jerk, right?). The other three virgins, things worked out fine, I actually went and found out how to make those first times better than the way most women describe them—maybe they lied to me. I’ll never really know. She brought me with her to the “lady doc” and She did her homework assignments with me as prescribed. I did extra homework to make sure everything was going to go well, because I’d waited and She deserved nothing but my very best.

So we were both a little shocked after I came up grinnin’ like a fool from giving Her a nice and loud, jumping-all-over-the-damned-place-orgasm, when intercourse, after appropriate recovery and well-earned snuggling, was impossible and way more painful that it should have given all the conscientious preparation—in retrospect, we were both shattered. Unfortunately, we were too ashamed and scared to tell each other just how shattered we were— for the first decade or so that we were married. The honeymoon wasn’t the intimate emotional-physical-sexual discovery and bonding experience we’d planned. Instead, it was just another one of our many trips together, except that this trip was an emotional nightmare and we talked very little and we only tried to have sex one other time, again to failure and a lot of me apologizing for letting Her down. I was convinced it must be my fault.

Our marriage was publicly known to our friends and family as the model for “doing it right” but in private, in our bed, it was emotionally tortured and sexually just awful. In the first year, I kept trying to get her to take this all to her doctor. I was a fix-it guy, something doesn’t work you go fix it. In the meantime, you work around it. I had a vocabulary, I had some experience with a bunch of other fun things to do with two human bodies. I didn’t know what “vanilla” meant back then but I discovered She was a vanilla’s vanilla. Missionary only or nothing, well, almost nothing, She’d let me go down on Her, which I was all too eager to provide because all I wanted was to make Her happy. I couldn’t help but wonder it that was a response to our wedding night shocker or if She just really was “not into anything else” as She told me that first year. Over the first few years we tried to have sex and failed. Eventually, intercourse, as brief as possible and as an afterwards She endured, was possible. Bottom line, She refused to go see a doctor and refused to try any workaround. I just wanted her to be happy so I settled. That’s what a “good guy” does. I loved Her.

I was devastated but I loved Her. And it hurt even worse than Her body was (and is to this day at late forty-something) rockin’. It was like coming to the table every meal, every damned day, where the table is loaded with chocolate covered strawberries and champagne and never being allowed to even touch any of it, well, one strawberry, a couple times a year, and I had to down it quickly so it wouldn’t hurt her too much. That’s been our “sex life” for 23 years.

Somehow we managed to have two kids. We were stupid, thinking: well, maybe this will be something we can do right, in spite of the “problem.” Economics put me home as the Stay-At-Home-Dad. It was kinda “choice” for me, I had already bailed on my arts careers in favor of a desk job but the economy was tightening up around the millennium, both of us wanted to raise our own kids and, since we couldn’t afford daycare anyway even with both our jobs, I had the time so I downshifted. Ha! More like “shifted-sideways” because any SAH parent knows kids are never “down” even when they’re unconscious.

Now that our kids were a distraction from our intimacy crisis, our silence about the “problem” continued until I went back to college to finish whatever-degree-was-cheapest-and-fastest-to-finish and could get me back to an arts-based career (I was always a better artist than a paralegal), and when our eldest entered kindergarten. One day, out of the blue she tells me matter-of-factly, no tears or anything, our wedding night devastated her. “It was one more thing in my hard life that was hard. I always believed sex was going to be something easy, natural, organic I could count on to not be more work. But it wasn’t and it isn’t and I’m done with sex for good.”

I was devastated, hell, beyond shattered all over again. I felt numb, surely She didn’t mean it. After two kids, birthed the way evolution geared it, she still had a body that was rockin’. That table filled with chocolate covered strawberries and champagne I was not allowed to touch? Not even on the table anymore. I blamed her for waiting until she was married. I kicked myself for being stupid for breaking the Rule for Her that I established when I was still in high school: no moving forward with a girl without sexual compatibility being established. It was a socially unpopular Rule (one my fundamentalist parents would have freaked out over had they known) but it had always weeded out girlfriends who liked the idea of me more than me. Until Her. And here we were thirteen years married, I broke my Rule for Her and I was getting’ spanked for it (not even the fun kind).

I had a shitstorm to deal with because I was around younger twenty-somethings every day on campus and four different women (older twenty-somethings) made me an offer no man could refuse, except me. I was still head over heels in love with Her. I had thirteen years emotionally invested in Her and the last thing I wanted to do was complicate that—it was plenty complicated already, dammit—and I already knew Her shit; why would I want to have to learn to deal with another woman’s? And I kicked myself for it while simultaneously glad I still wanted Her more than those very appealing other women. I was noble, it’s what a “good guy” does, right?

Again, we didn’t talk about the “problem,” except for briefly when the vulvodynia discovery happened three years after She announced to me She was “done with sex for good.” All along I kept saying to myself, “Dude, don’t be a selfish asshole, it’s gotta be hell for Her, put yourself in Her shoes—if you imagined that your parts were fine then discovered on The Most Sexually Auspicious Occasion in Life that they didn’t, how badly would that suck? How guilty and ashamed would you feel that you were depriving your mate of the thing they always looked forward to and already had plenty of good experiences with?” Along with the self-recriminations and heart-driven motivation to Sacrifice for Her—because that’s really what it was always about for me, my whole life was oriented around this amazing, breathtaking woman who possessed my heart, even though She could never articulate why She said “yes” to me, why She loved me or much else in the intimacy department let alone sexually—I began to realize I really had some authentic needs that weren’t being met. Those unmet needs interfered with my career, my sense of myself as me, my sense of being worthwhile and valuable to another person; to Her I clearly was not. For me sex wasn’t, and still isn’t, about “gittin’ some” or an event-count, and it was so much deeper than fairy-tale romantic hoohah. Sex presents a vital affirmation on the deepest level that I, as a male human being was loved, desired, needed, wanted, important to the woman I wanted to be with. When I was having sex, I was young, sure. But I know how much taller I walked, how much “brighter” I was in my worldview and confidence. Women constantly underestimate the power they have with men. I don’t know why. Mom is the first and most important woman to a boy. When he becomes sexually active, the girl he’s having sex with becomes the next most important woman in his life. Why? Because women can do that to us. It’s just nature’s most authentic sexual truth.

After I was complaining about how I wasn’t getting published any more except in pissant non-paying literary journals, one of my mentors told me, very emphatically, “If you don’t have sex with your woman, if you cannot go into a hotel lobby and land any woman you desire right then and there, how the hell can you pitch your work and sell it?” I realized, well shit, this celibacy[-against-my-will] crap is definitely impacting my work now. I ain’t young anymore so the sell is even harder to buyers are wealthy confident young guys, often with either super model-type girlfriends or wives. I have to be twice as confident, twice as self-assured as they are, and let me tell you, those guys are pretty damned confident and self-assured. But I no longer am. For 23 years I’ve had no affirmation from a woman on the deepest level and that’s a long time for a guy like me to go with no emotional feedback from the person I adore and try like hell to give Her what She needs, including the supreme sacrifice from me.

I’d be pitching a story in front of a bunch of younger guys, rich guys, and here I’d be mister working class SAHD artistic creative guy trying to sell myself, my ability to spin a yarn over and over again, always be fresh and innovative, quality driven but with almost no self-esteem when it came to feeling worthwhile to other people. That I could still pitch demonstrated I had enough self-esteem to think I had something to offer, but I was the guy who couldn’t make his marriage to Her be intimate, let alone be rock solid and awesome. I was the guy who gained too much damned weight and had zero incentive from Her to lose it—I found out later stress is a major impediment to losing weight, and men need testosterone to be able to lose it and SAHDs apparently lose testosterone in the process. I was the guy who turned down other very appealing women who seemed to desire me enough to offer me a sexual relationship. I kind of wondered it they were just nuts or something because if She doesn’t want me why would they. I was getting gigs before I had begun to really think about this stuff and now I was getting “we’ll pass” all the damned time.

I’m not a buff, hairless, cut-no-body-fat-washboard-abs, six-foot something, wealthy guy that most women these days seem to want. I am debt-free (apparently that’s something), honest, passionate, honorable, and I give more than I take, always. She has always come first, then the Offspring, then me. The only time I move ahead in that priority sequence is when it’s directly related to my ability to put funds in the family bank account. And now, that’s become a sore spot for me. I know my economic shortcomings have to be a turnoff or at least an irritant for Her, despite her protestations that that doesn’t matter to her. Every other woman says it is. All I know is having no intimacy with Her—emotional and lately intellectual—let alone sexual, for 23 years is killing me. I honestly don’t know how much longer I can stand it. I am not dead, no matter what society puts on me as a mid-forty-something guy. And it’s heartbreaking because I still adore Her.

At my “advanced age” I don’t honestly think I would fare well in the attracting a partner let alone a mate—apparently over 40 and male=dead and asexual–because if you get an erection, especially upon seeing a woman under 40, that’s a bad thing, you’re a “dirty old man” (jeebus, the crap our culture buys into). I’ve been online in my darker more depressed moments at 3:00 a.m. on those dating websites, trying to figure out what women want in a guy. I’m nowhere near any of those descriptions put out there by women I find appealing. So much for a fix-it or a workaround. Besides the genuine bottom line I keep coming back to, and feeling so utterly stupid for feeling it, is I just want Her. I ache for Her.

Two days ago she told me, “I’m emotionally dead inside, except for being angry. I’m really angry.” She even tossed in a Probstian, “I got nothing for ya’” to assure me there was nothing I could do about it. Somewhere along the line this has to be my fault. 23 years of not being able to fix anything, not being allowed to try any sort of workaround. I have teenage kids, one with Aspergers, one who’s bipolar. I can’t just leave them. I’ve devoted the past sixteen years bonding and being deeply attached to them. Economically I’m not independent enough to make a go of it on my own. Sexually and physically, despite having lost 40 pounds (working on the final twenty) and having one of four jobs as a paid mid-level sports official (if you cannot keep up with under 21s you don’t get to work—I work), I’m so busted up and demoralized I’m not going to attract or gain a partner anyway. And I keep wanting Her. Just Her.

A female high school friend (yay Facebook, bane of my existence—it sucks to have three high school ex’s trying hard to get back the “one that got away.” Hell one named her kid after me—jeebus ) told me it’s completely unfair for a married woman to tell her husband unilaterally that she’s not going to have sex with him anymore (No, she’s not one of those three ex’s). I may have even read that in a blog comment somewhere too, so it must be a real thing. In principle, I agree with that. But my situation just isn’t that simple. She has a physically broken sweet-parts. She’s had a life of hard work where nothing comes easy. She has shattered expectations. I don’t know if She honestly loves me anymore; She still won’t tell me and She doesn’t say the three magic words anymore. I do hear a blistering critique of my flaws on a regular basis, often really unfair ones (my sixteen year old has begun to ask my why Mom is always riding me about stuff—I just don’t have an answer).

I do know her expectation of me is that I’ll stay with Her until She’s dead. She talks about us buying a place, where we’ll hole up together once neither of us can work anymore. It make me do a double-take every time; it confuses the hell out of me why She has no problem expecting me to continue to live with Her anger, her admitted emotional deadness, that she’s got nothin’ for me, when she knows how important intimacy and sex is for my very soul. How can I live with Her when there is nothing I can give Her?

I’ve tried to show my adoration, my affection for Her, my passion for Her above every other woman on the planet in every nonsexual way I can. I work my ass off doing anything that’ll pay (and I still pitch and pitch) in the toughest economy since the Depression to pull my weight. One of the two jobs that pays money regularly I get to put up with obnoxious fans, temperamental young players and far more often that people realize, threats of violence against me—I don’t care, I love the work too much. I dumped 40 pounds. I constantly and actively listen to Her go one for hours about how shitty Her life is. I’ve learned to clean the place up to Her standard despite two very challenging Offspring. I still do my damnedest to show her where my heart I with Her. I endure the unrequited love and the rejection from Her. I drive hard to be the very best Dad I can possibly be for the two kids I adore—if I read one more bullshit female author’s blog about how there’s nothing hotter than a good Dad (or a man who cleans), I’m going to explode because in my house that’s not the case. Nothing and no one is “hot,” except Her and She’s got nothing for me.

It’s galling, it’s living every day heartbroken, and feeling stupid for being unable to not be in love with Her. It’s so demoralizing that there’s nothing I can do to fix it or try a workaround, sexually or emotionally.

Everyone keeps telling me, leave her. I can’t. To quote a character in Juno (shudder), “the sun still shines out her ass” in my heart’s stupid foolhardy eyes. I feel alone. I am alone, married for 23 years to Her. And that truth is just too hard to take.

I used to have this recurring dream that started about a year after we started seeing each other. The two of us, old in our own place somewhere on the central coast, and we hosted big communal meals outside under the oak trees. It was our thing and we were happy. Five or six years ago that dream has been replaced with another recurring dream. In this one I’m alone, homeless “in a van down by the river” and I’m anything but happy. Damn, that’s just depressing. Somehow I can’t let that happen. But I really don’t know how to do that.

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(If you wish to undergo the terrifically cathartic process of ripping your soul out and plastering it all over the internet for everyone to gawk at, rip that motherfucker out and send it in to IBWMW at jillhamilton001@gmail.com.)

In bed with married women- Jill Hamilton

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I was sprawled across my bed, utterly wrecked, one morning many years ago. I’d just had amazing phone sex with someone who, to this day, remains the most attachment-avoidant person I’ve ever met.

“Holy fuck,” I mumbled, made dreamy by ravishment. “Why was that so…good? We were on the phone.”

“People need connection,” he said simply. To my surprise, even he had known this, deep in some barely accessible part of his poor love-avoidant heart. And it had been a connection, an intense sexual communion that felt like something real had happened, even though nobody parts had been touched or even seen.

This private connection between lovers–This is why we fuck each other, even though there are plenty of promiscuous toys, pillows, and shower spouts that can do the job quite well. And, yes, it has to be fucking (of some sort) because other human interactions–a nice chat in the bank line, for example–just won’t do it.

Bearing witness to someone surrendering to their instincts–just being with them at the moment they lose themselves–is fucking powerful. And to find someone you trust enough to fall into that void with them, well, it’s a rare and beautiful gift.

On a less sublime level, I think it’s also about being present in the Now and existing in a state of Flow, where you are wholly consumed with what you are doing. These are purportedly optimal (and often needlessly Capitalized) states for achieving happiness, inner peace and well-being. (See also: Ekhart Tolle’s The Power of Now and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s Flow). The orgasm is, like, a bonus to what’s really going on.

Caitlin Moran describes this kind of focused-attention-on-another in her book How to Build a Girl about a teenage Brit who transforms herself into a badass music journalist/sexual adventurer:

“Here’s the amazing thing about sex: you get a whole person to yourself, for the first time since you were a baby. Someone who is looking at you–just you–and thinking about you, and wanting you…You are in a room with a closed door, and no one else can come through it….It seemed to me that this was the real reason people wanted to fuck so much. To get here. To get to this tiny, quiet place where there was nothing else to do but be with each other. Just to be two humans who had–for a short while–stopped wanting.”

That idea fits nicely with what I discovered when I looked on PornHub the other day for the Top Rated Video of All Time. It wasn’t “Bitch takes cum in her hair” or whatever I was expecting, but a sweet little clip of a sleepy, tousled-haired woman waking her lover up and giving him a blow job.

This top-rated video–OF ALL TIME!–showed two people portrayed as affectionate, familiar lovers happy to be waking up together in such a nice way. They weren’t over-the-top porn excited, but just enjoying the everyday-yet-so-amazing swollen pleasures of taking someone you like in your mouth and/or being taken thus. In the world of porn, this was maybe about the squarest, most vanilla thing ever. And yet it was the most loved…of all time! (For that one day, at least. Today, alas, I can’t re-find it. It has been replaced by “Hot blond maid having anal.” Top-redness is apparently fleeting. )

The point of all this being: sexual connection, in whatever form it takes, is something we all seek, including the millions of surreptitiously wanking users of Porn Hub on that particular day. Even my old friend, the dear attachment-avoidant boy, needed this intimacy, albeit from the distance that felt safe to him.

We all need to get this place, however we can–where you get to be two humans who have–for a short while–stopped wanting.

Go find your place.

xoxo
jill

Kim Kardashian shows off cleavage and legs in white mini dress at her 20th high school reunion

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She was reuniting with classmates she hasn’t seen in two decades.

So it comes as no wonder why Kim Kardashian had to make a memorable impression on them.

The 37-year-old reality star put her cleavage and legs on full display as she arrived for her 20th-year high school reunion on Friday night.

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Wow, factor: Kim Kardashian put her cleavage and legs on full display as she arrived for her 20th-year high school reunion on Friday night +22
Wow factor: Kim Kardashian put her cleavage and legs on full display as she arrived for her 20th-year high school reunion on Friday night

She looked absolutely stunning in a white tie-up blouse mini dress as she arrived at Toscana in Brentwood.

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The middle Kardashian sister teamed the racy garment with a pair of clear designer heels.

She accessorized with a very tiny designer bag which she carried by the straps.

Wow factor: The 37-year-old reality star looked absolutely stunning in a white tie-up blouse mini dress as she arrived at Toscana in Brentwood +22
Wow factor: The 37-year-old reality star looked absolutely stunning in a white tie-up blouse mini dress as she arrived at Toscana in Brentwood

On the prowl: The middle Kardashian sister teamed the racy garment with a pair of clear designer heels +22
On the prowl: The middle Kardashian sister teamed the racy garment with a pair of clear designer heels +22
On the prowl: The middle Kardashian sister teamed the racy garment with a pair of clear designer heels

Showing her style: She accessorized with a very tiny designer bag which she carried by the straps +22
Showing her style: She accessorized with a very tiny designer bag which she carried by the straps

Her very long brunette tresses were worn down as it hung to right around her stomach.

Kim completed her fab look with evening make-up including smokey eye and shiny lip.

She documented the fun-filled event on social media including Snapchat to share the occasion with her millions of fans.

She begins by sharing that she rented a party bus for her and her Marymount alumni friends.

Watch your step: She arrived in style as she carefully stepped off a party bus +22
Watch your step: She arrived in style as she carefully stepped off a party bus +22
Watch your step: She arrived in style as she carefully stepped off a party bus

Gorgeous: Kim completed her fab look with evening make-up including smokey eye and shiny lip +22
Gorgeous: Kim completed her fab look with evening make-up including smokey eye and shiny lip

As she addresses the camera, she adjusts the top portion of her white minidress, to ensure her cleavage is just barely visible.

The mother-of-three pans around to show some of her friends before explaining a new concern.

 

‘So my friends are worried that we’re going to run into people that they were mean to,’ she states, before adding ‘I feel so good about my conscience, I was so nice to everyone.’

Back in class! Kim documented the outing on social media +22
Back in class! Kim documented the outing on social media

Safe travels! Kim rented a party bus for her friends to attend their high school reunion +22
Safe travels! Kim rented a party bus for her friends to attend their high school reunion

Generous! She begins by sharing that she rented a party bus for her and her Marymount alumni friends +22
Generous! She begins by sharing that she rented a party bus for her and her Marymount alumni friends

Always aware! As she addresses the camera, she adjusts the top portion of her white minidress, to ensure her cleavage is just barely visible +22
Always aware! As she addresses the camera, she adjusts the top portion of her white minidress, to ensure her cleavage is just barely visible

Party people! The mother-of-three pans around to show some of her friends before explaining a new concern +22
Party people! The mother-of-three pans around to show some of her friends before explaining a new concern

Stunner: The beauty maven parted her famous raven tresses in the middle +22
Stunner: The beauty maven parted her famous raven tresses in the middle

Ready to go! With the help of a friend, she then applies her nametag and starts walking around the campus +22
Ready to go! With the help of a friend, she then applies her nametag and starts walking around the campus

With the help of a friend, she then applies her nametag and starts walking around the campus.

‘We are walking the same halls we walked 20 years ago,’ she says in wonderment, while others comment that they are ‘much nicer now.’

She then shares a few selfies with groups of friends, including one in a classroom, before showing off the chemistry lab, where she explains ‘this is where chemistry was back in the day; this is where I did really badly in this chemistry class.’

‘So my friends are worried that we’re going to run into people that they were mean to,’ she states, before adding ‘I feel so good about my conscience, I was so nice to everyone’ +22
‘So my friends are worried that we’re going to run into people that they were mean to,’ she states, before adding ‘I feel so good about my conscience, I was so nice to everyone’

Cute! She brought all of her old yearbooks to peruse on the bus +22
Cute! She brought all of her old yearbooks to peruse on the bus

Group shot! The Marymount High School alums posed for a photo +22
Group shot! The Marymount High School alums posed for a photo

Her fun blast to the past comes after she had a rough few days on social media.

Indeed took down some of her Turks And Caicos vacation photos from Instagram after DailyMail.com revealed on Tuesday Tristan Thompson had been cheating on Khloe.

But on Friday the 37-year-old TV star was finally back to the social media site as he shared a bikini photo with Kourtney.

Flashback! Kim also shared a photo from eighth grade where she missed her long hair +22
Flashback! Kim also shared a photo from eighth grade where she missed her long hair

Envious! ‘We are walking the same halls we walked 20 years ago,’ she says in wonderment, while others comment that they are ‘much nicer now.’ +22
Envious! ‘We are walking the same halls we walked 20 years ago,’ she says in wonderment, while others comment that they are ‘much nicer now.’

All together! She then shares a few selfies with groups of friends, including one in a classroom, before showing off the chemistry lab, where she explains ‘this is where chemistry was back in the day; this is where I did really badly in this chemistry class.’ +22
All together! She then shares a few selfies with groups of friends, including one in a classroom, before showing off the chemistry lab, where she explains ‘this is where chemistry was back in the day; this is where I did really badly in this chemistry class.’

This time Mrs Kanye West added a note to her fans as she asked them to only post ‘positive vibes.’

The siren’s caption read: ‘I deleted some vacation pics because I didn’t like the vibe on my page but I re-filtered them and reposting some! I’m crazy about the vibe on my IG page. #PositiveVibesOnly.’

Kim was no doubt reacting to the barrage of negative comments thrown at the family after the Cleveland Cavaliers player Thompson was unmasked as a love rat two days before Khloe gave birth to their daughter.

 

5 Mind-Blowing Sex Positions for Multiple Orgasms

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Flying V

Oral is a great way to try for multiple orgasms because it doesn’t require a penis-having partner to stay hard for aeons. Scoot your butt to the edge of the bed so your partner can kneel and get to work. This works best if you start with a gentle clit-only orgasm them move to a deep whole-V kind. For part one, gentle licks and sucks, for part two, they can slide a curved finger inside of you for a firm and steady internal stim while they continue with oral attention.

The Rag Doll

If you want/crave different stimulation within the same position, because multitasking, lie on your side with a pillow under your head. He kneels by your butt, a knee between your legs so he’s straddling your lower leg, and your upper leg goes over his thigh. Angle yourself to focus stimulation and if/when you have an orgasm, shift to another and try again. Options: rubbing yourself on his upper thigh, letting yourself go limp for P-in-V plus clit rub, anal plus vibrator, etc.

Bump and Grind

Trade off on thrusting duties to mix up the stimulation. Have your partner get on top a la missionary, then put your legs inside theirs and press them tightly together. Shift down a little so you can grind against the top of their shaft. You do all the moving — his job, if he can stand it, is not to come…yet. For round two, they lift themselves onto their hands so you can rub yourself as they thrust. Super sexy for all.

The Cup Holder

If you get super sensitive after an orgasm, a seated position is your friend. Sit on your partner’s lap facing away for orgasm #1. After, when you think you can’t take anymore, they gently cup your V with their whole hand. As your body parts calm down a little, they move up to slow rub with their whole hand. And so it begins again.

The Soft Parade

The clitoris extends way inside and around your vagina. The key to multiples is getting at it from different angles. For this, you need reinforcements. Start out solo — gather an arsenal of toys and take to your bed. Use your hand as a simple, and hopefully, starter, clitoral orgasm. Afterwards, try for another by sliding a dildo-style vibrator inside your vagina and pressing it against the top wall. If you can handle more, mix and match with butt plugs, clit vibrators, whatever you’ve got. Just make sure to lock the door.

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5 Stellar Sex Positions If It’s Your Partner’s First Time, But Not Yours

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The Missionary Slide

Missionary is a classic for a reason. But instead of him jumping you and being done, start with outercourse—lube up the bottom of his shaft so he can slide it along your vulva (it’s like regular p-inv but p doesn’t actually go inside v.) Feels amazing to you and helps him last longer. Wait ’til you’re both so turned on you can barely take it, then let him slip inside you.

The Lover’s Knot


The best thing about being someone’s first is that you’re, like, instructing him on exactly how you want to be fucked. If that’s slow and passionate, lie on your sides facing him with your leg draped over his hips. You can pull him toward you with your leg or he can gently move against you. The position forces you to move slowly for intense, slow-burn passion.

5 Stellar Sex Positions If It’s Your Partner’s First Time, But Not Yours

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The Two-Timer
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Sit on your partner’s lap facing them for a slow ride/make out session.

Even if they’re so excited they last for two seconds—highly possible, please remain calm—they might be able to go another round. Keep kissing, working your way down to see if a little oral revives them for round two.

The Swan Dive

If it’s her first time, sit in bed, facing each other with your legs out and your partner semi-sitting on your lap. Gear up with lots of face-to-face intimate connection and close contact, then start stroking your partner’s clitoris. You can do this simultaneously, but for their first time it might be best to take turns. (If you’re looking for something more penetrative, a lovely ride on a double ended toy works, too.