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In most parts of the country, women still tend to live the longest
But men now enjoy a greater proportion of their life in good health
There is something we can all learn from the other gender’s health habits
By LUCY ELKINS FOR DAILY MAIL
PUBLISHED: 00:10, 29 March 2016 | UPDATED: 08:42, 29 March 2016
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Deciding which is the healthier sex was a question that until recently was quite easy to answer – women won hands down.
However, the tables are turning. In most parts of the country, women still tend to live the longest.
But the latest figures from the Office for National Statistics show that men now enjoy a greater proportion of their life in good health than women – 79.7 per cent compared with 76.9.
Certainly there is something we can all learn from the other gender’s health habits, as the experts reveal…
Women still tend to live the longest. But men now enjoy a greater proportion of their life in good health

Women still tend to live the longest. But men now enjoy a greater proportion of their life in good health
HOW MEN SHOULD COPY WOMEN TAKE UP YOGA
Pop your head into a yoga class and it’s immediately obvious it’s something of a woman’s ‘thing’. Yet while yoga is good for both sexes for improving flexibility and toning muscles, arguably men benefit more, says Professor Samuele Marcora, director of the school of sport and exercise sciences at the University of Kent.

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‘Because of the effects of the male hormone testosterone, men have more connective tissue in their muscles than women – this is what holds the muscle to the bone and keeps it nice and big and strong,’ he explains.
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‘But it also makes the muscles harder and less flexible than a woman’s. And when men exercise they tend to go for workouts that build muscle bulk rather than make it flexible.’
Yet muscle flexibility becomes more important as you age, helping you maintain a full range of movements – and ultimately, your independence.
A lack of flexibility increases the risks of musculoskeletal injuries such as strains and sprains.
Professor Marcora says there is another benefit for men. ‘Men classically do not discuss their problems or what is stressing them. So joining a yoga class – which teaches you to focus on breathing deeply and to concentrate on the here and now, rather than worrying what else may be going on in your life – can be very beneficial.
While yoga is good for both sexes for improving flexibility and toning muscles, arguably men benefit more

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While yoga is good for both sexes for improving flexibility and toning muscles, arguably men benefit more
‘I started doing it when I had some stresses in my life and found it to be really helpful – but I was just about the only man there.’
SPEND LESS TIME ON THE LOO
The sight of a man disappearing into the loo with his newspaper or book is all too familiar. Men don’t spend just a bit more time in there, they spend a great deal more; men spend on average 1 hour 45 minutes on the loo a week, compared with 85 minutes for women, according to survey of 2,500 people in 2008.
This can lead to piles (haemorrhoids), says Matthew Hanson, a colorectal surgeon at the Barking, Havering and Redbridge University Hospitals NHS Trust.
Piles are essentially swollen blood vessels. Sitting on the loo with your bottom pointed down can cause the venous plexus (a collection of veins in the rectum) to swell with blood.
Men spend on average 1hr 45mins on the loo a week, compared with 85mins for women. This can lead to piles
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Men spend on average 1hr 45mins on the loo a week, compared with 85mins for women. This can lead to piles
‘In this position the entire contents of the abdominal cavity are pushing down on the pelvic floor and this encourages blood to pool down by the rectum,’ says Mr Hanson.
‘This will encourage any existing haemorrhoids to bleed and may actually encourage the development of haemorrhoids in the first place.
‘That’s why I tell my patients to get up as soon as they have finished, but some – typically men – say they sit there for 20 minutes or half an hour with a newspaper or playing on their iPhones.’
There is no biological reason that men need longer. ‘If you talk to men, it seems that locking themselves in the loo is their quiet time – they say it’s their time to escape from the family,’ adds Mr Hanson.
PAY ATTENTION TO HEALTH CAMPAIGNS
When women read about a health scare or see a public health message that relates to their symptoms they tend to go to the doctor about it, says Professor Ian Banks, of the European Men’s Health Forum.
‘Men do the absolute opposite,’ he says. ‘Men fear a diagnosis, whereas women are better at confronting it.’
EXERCISE YOUR PELVIC FLOOR
As the [muscles around the urethra] get older, they lose their tone and some urine gets left behind… It’s the most common cause of leakage in men
Keeping your pelvic floor muscles strong is a mantra drummed into women during pregnancy, but it’s a message men need to listen to, too, to stop embarrassing leaks. In men, the urethra, which carries urine out of the body, is shaped like a U-bend.
‘When men are young the surrounding muscles contract strongly, helping propel the last drop of urine stuck in the bottom of the U-bend,’ says Marc Laniado, a consultant urologist from Nuada Urology in London.
‘However as they get older, these muscles lose their tone and some urine gets left behind when they’ve been to the loo. Then once they start to walk away, the movement stimulates the urethra to push out the last bit of urine. It’s the most common cause of leakage in men.’
Strengthening the pelvic floor helps the muscles around the urethra. It can help with a man’s sex life, too. Research presented at the European Congress of Urology in 2014 found that men affected by premature ejaculation who did the exercises for three months improved the amount of time they could last.
To identify the muscles, sit relaxed, and tighten the muscle around the back passage, as if trying to control wind. You should feel a dip at the base of the penis, while the scrotum moves up slightly.
To do the exercises, sit, stand or lie with your knees slightly apart. Slowly tighten and pull up the pelvic floor muscles as hard as you can for as long as you can – ideally ten seconds. Rest for four seconds then repeat. Mr Laniado suggests men do this three times a day from the age of 45.
LISTEN TO YOUR BIOLOGICAL CLOCK
The children of older fathers are more likely to have autism, schizophrenia and learning difficulties (file photo)
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The children of older fathers are more likely to have autism, schizophrenia and learning difficulties (file photo)
Women know that the older they are, the less likely they are to conceive. Yet recent research has shown that men, too, should listen to their biological clocks.
A U.S. study published in 2006 in Gynaecology and Obstetrics found that men over 40 have a 60 per cent higher risk of conceiving a pregnancy that ends in miscarriage compared with a man aged 25-29.
Furthermore the children of older fathers are more likely to have autism, schizophrenia, learning difficulties, and even cancer.
The problem is that the sperm are made by stem cells in the testes and over time these are more likely to create cells with genetic mistakes, says Professor Sheena Lewis, an emeritus professor of reproductive medicine at Queen’s University, Belfast. She recommends that men have their children by 45.
A study published in Nature in 2012 found a 20-year-old father would pass on 25 genetic mutations while a 40-year-old passed on 65. While some mutations may bring benefits, others may raise the risk of disease.
HOW WOMEN SHOULD COPY MEN BUILD MUSCLE
LIFT HEAVY WEIGHTS

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As women age – especially after the menopause – they lose muscle and bone strength, which can lead to frailty

As women age – especially after the menopause – they lose muscle and bone strength, which can lead to frailty
Women often shy away from weightlifting, fearing it will give them a masculine physique. In fact they have much to gain from pumping iron and have little chance of bulking up, says Professor Marcora. And muscle is important, helping keep joints strong and playing a part in metabolism.
Women have less muscle mass than men to begin with, because the hormone testosterone encourages the development of bulky muscles. And as women age – but especially after the menopause – they lose muscle and bone strength rapidly, which can lead to frailty.
Weight-bearing not only encourages new bone, but it keeps the muscles strong, ‘vital to help prevent falls which become more potentially serious for women post-menopause when their bones are weakened,’ says Professor Marcora.
You’re using the right weight if you can lift it more than six times but no more than ten times – you need to feel it
Weight training is especially beneficial as it encourages the brain and the spinal cord to activate muscles more, making them stronger and more flexible.
Muscles also burn more calories ‘and post-menopausal women are more likely to gain weight – and when they diet, they lose muscle – so weight training is a perfect way to counter that,’ he adds.
However he says that when women do weights they tend to do lots of repetitions with light weights which is not going to increase the actual strength of the muscle.
‘You’re using the right weight if you can lift it more than six times but no more than ten times – you need to really feel it,’ he says.
‘Aim to work each muscle group in this way a couple of times a week.’
And don’t worry about developing bulging biceps.
‘Even though women need more muscle mass, it is not that easy to increase it,’ he says. ‘Men can achieve it more easily because of their testosterone, but for women it’s actually very hard to do that.’
DON’T BOTHER WITH HOUSEHOLD CHORES
Those who took on most housework had much higher blood pressure than those who left it to their partners

While there might be the odd new man out there, the harsh reality is that women still do the lion’s share of the housework.
Last month researchers at the University of Essex, who examined the habits of 30,000 couples, found that women spend on average 14 hours a week doing the chores while men do a paltry six.
And this could be damaging women’s health. A study from the University of Pittsburgh found that those who took on the majority of the housework had significantly higher blood pressure than those who left it to their partners.
The study, published in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine in 2011, suggested the repetitive nature of chores added to stress-related blood pressure problems.
The findings are important as high blood pressure is more of a risk factor for heart disease for post-menopausal women then men, says Sundip Patel, a consultant cardiologist at the London Bridge Hospital.
EAT CARBS

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Carbs are a great source of fibre – just 70 per cent of women have the recommended 30g of fibre per day

Carbs are a great source of fibre – just 70 per cent of women have the recommended 30g of fibre per day
Many women will pass on the bread basket – a survey of 3,000 people in 2013 found that 50 per cent of women feel guilty about eating carbs, double the number of men.
This could have repercussions as carbs, especially wholegrains, are a great source of fibre – just 70 per cent of women have the recommended 30g of fibre per day, compared with 87 per cent of men.
‘The fact that so many women now avoid or minimise carbs could be one reason for this difference,’ says Sian Porter, a dietitian based in Moulton, Northamptonshire.
WEAR LACE-UP SHOES
It’s hard to better the men’s lace-up brogue when it comes to shoes, says Emma Ashdown, a podiatrist based in Ashtead, Surrey.
‘They hold the foot in place,’ she says. ‘With slip-ons the foot has to keep working to keep the shoe on – the toes dig in all the time which can lead to hammer toes and calluses.
‘Completely flat shoes, like women wear, put too much strain on the Achilles tendon and wearing too high a heel can pull on muscles and lead to problems with the back and hips.
‘The other plus of men’s brogues is they’re made of leather, which helps the feet breathe.’ This means their feet are less likely to smell or develop fungal infections.

Why these TV sex scenes make me feel so inadequate: BRIAN VINER says it’s troubling having to watch hunks going at it on the box Read more:

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Sunday night television is meant to send a chap off to bed in a state of calm before the rigours of the week ahead, not assailed with doubts about his sexual prowess.
But BBC1’s The Night Manager, based on John le Carre’s novel, has changed everything.
Up and down the land, men are questioning whether they’re doing it right. And more to the point, whether they’re doing it upright.
It’s distinctly troubling watching our wives and girlfriends watching these blokes at it on the telly.
When Tom Hiddleston’s title character, Jonathan Pine, pinned the baddie’s girlfriend to the bedroom wall with more than just his direct blue-eyed gaze, my wife, Jane — on the sofa on which she routinely slumps — gave a violent start, as if jabbed by a cattle prod.
That was last week. She sat down for this week’s episode plainly hoping for more of the same, but had to be content merely with a discreet shot of the naked Hiddleston having a shower.
Jane comes from a world in which the biggest imaginable Sunday night treat is a bag of Revels. That’s my world, too. This is new territory for both of us, and I find it unsettling.
Am I, after giving the dogs a night-time biscuit and before setting the Monday morning alarm, expected to hoik her up against the bedroom wall and have Olympian sex, standing up?
And never mind ‘am I?’ The more painful question must be ‘could I?’ Even assuming I could get everything into position, what if I pulled something or got cramp?
Naturally, I passed her the Revels in an attempt to drag her back to reality after the naked derriere scene, but the damage had been done.
It was a small mercy we only got to watch the manoeuvre from behind. It’s still BBC1, not an adults-only cable channel (even if it’s increasingly difficult to tell the difference). But all the same, what a behind.
For me, and I suppose men across the land, it offered a taste of what women have suffered for years.
It’s not normally blokes who are left with limp self-esteem by a sex scene on TV. After all, such scenes are invariably written by men and the flesh on show is usually female, with women the ones looking on in envy at the gorgeous tousled hair, the firm breasts, the thunderous orgasms.
The Night Manager: Tom Hiddleston goes undercover in BBC series
Moment barechested Tom Hiddleston left viewers hot and bothered

But this time it’s different. The physical and sexual inadequacy generated by The Night Manager is overwhelmingly male. The credits should end with a helpline for those who are suffering from flagging sexual confidence.
Hiddleston has made us all look to our laurels. And not just our laurels.
It must be said, as 35-year-old male posteriors go, it was impressively pert. It’s probably something to do with my age, but the image I still prefer, when I think of Le Carre adaptations on TV, is Alec Guinness in a raincoat.
And it is not just The Night Manager we men have to worry about. These days, every man who takes his shirt off on prime-time television has an amazing, sculpted torso, like a Greek god. It never used to be like that, not even in the raunchiest dramas.
And now they’re taking their britches off, too. Remember how excited everyone got when Aidan Turner went topless in the BBC’s Poldark? That will be the least of it in the next series of tupping among the tin mines, mark my words.
The men in suits, and increasingly, it seems, female TV executives, who commission all this nudity and sex — and whose own bodies probably do not look as though they belong on Corinthian plinths either — really should be called to account for making us feel rubbish about ourselves.
Tuppence Middleton plays Helene Kuragina having sex on the dining room table with husband’s friend Dolokhov played by Tom Burke

Tuppence Middleton plays Helene Kuragina having sex on the dining room table with husband’s friend Dolokhov played by Tom Burke
For it’s not just how these sex gods look that leaves us feeling rather limp — it’s how they perform the deed that makes us feel so inadequate.
Standing up like Tom Hiddleston — more often than not, with the woman’s thighs wrapped around the man’s waist, like a pair of circus acrobats waiting for applause — is not, I’d wager, a position many middle-aged men can relate to.
The only time I ever stand that close to a wall late at night is when I’m at a cashpoint, trying not to let anyone see my PIN.
But it’s no joking matter. Prime-time sex on television is not only here to stay, but seems certain to get more and more explicit. The forthcoming BBC2 drama Versailles has already caused a stir, even before a transmission date has been fixed, for content said to verge on the pornographic.
Yet why can’t TV sex also be realistic? Why must a raised eyebrow or flared nostril be all that’s needed for both parties to get their pants off, whereupon they look as though they’re at it with the Kama Sutra in one hand?
Because if they’re not juddering up against a wall or a tree (see also Dominic West’s almost psychotically priapic Noah in Sky Atlantic’s The Affair, in which he pushed his love interest, face-first, up against the trunk of a tree and had his wicked way), they’re shuddering on a dining-room table, as in the case of Tuppence Middleton’s shamelessly adulterous Helene and one of her lovers, Fedya (Tom Burke), in the recent BBC Sunday night hit, War And Peace.
Quickly nicknamed ‘Phwoar And Peace’ for its steamy sex scenes, in the hands of script writer Andrew Davies Tolstoy’s epic novel was largely seen through a prism of sex in surprising venues.
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The forthcoming BBC2 drama Versailles has already caused a stir, even before a transmission date has been fixed, for content said to verge on the pornographic

In addition to Helene’s tabletop scene — a frantic, cutlery-scattering encounter that had social media wags commenting ‘That’s one way to lay a table’ — we were treated early on to a spot of incest between Helene and her brother, which Davies claimed to have found in a fleeting, well-disguised allusion buried in Tolstoy’s solemn prose, and a lusty arousal in a cloakroom.
All this is the televisual equivalent of the trashiest erotic paperback, in which no one acts as they do in real life.
This is not to say that adultery, rampant promiscuity and sex in public places do not happen in real life. We all know that they do.
But what’s the point of working so hard to make the dialogue sound plausible when the ensuing sex scene looks as if it’s been lifted from a third-rate novel?
Like every aspect of drama, sex should reflect the world we live in, not some souped-up, idealised version.
I grant you, like most men, my friends and I don’t talk about our sex lives. So there is a chance that maybe they’re all at it vertically, or on tables and to hell with the crockery.
But I expect that, like me, they’re happy to do it entirely in the horizontal, probably with the lights out, and possibly only once a week . . . as long as no other activity has sapped their energy, such as putting the bins out.
And as for the timing of that weekly canoodle, Sunday is out, at least until The Night Manager has finished. The comparison for middle-aged men like me are far too stressful.
Pass the Revels, darling.

 

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She wrapped her two-month long UK tour last week.
And Leona Lewis has been relishing her free time ever since, enjoying a spot of shopping at Madewell in Los Angeles on Wednesday with her pet pooch in tow.
The 30-year-old beauty was looking lovely in her off-duty outfit, ensuring her shapely legs were the focal point of her look thanks to a pair of thigh-high leather boots.

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Things Women Wish Guys Knew About Oral Sex

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By Hannah Smothers
Mar 16, 2016

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Being willing and eager to venture south is only half (OK, maybe 70 percent) of the battle — just doing oral isn’t enough sometimes. There are things to know, things to literally never do again, and things you can improve.

1. A vagina isn’t a clamshell about to snap down on your tongue, and there is no reason to be scared of going down there. By now, in this time of feminist strife, men should have no excuse for being afraid of or grossed out by oral sex if it’s something their partner is into. It’s really all fine and good.

2. Being asked if it feels good every 30 seconds is really distracting. Some women basically enter a meditative state when someone’s going down on us. But it’s very hard to feel what all is happening and enjoy myself if you’re constantly asking, “Does this feel good?” like you get a prize for finding the right spot. If you’re paying attention, you will know when you’re doing something that feels good.

3. Just latching on with your entire mouth like it’s an industrial vacuum cleaner is doing nothing for my orgasm. It feels like nothing, except sort of like my vagina is being sucked into a wind tunnel, which isn’t exactly the best way to get off. There are so many little nooks and crannies down there, and if you just treat the whole thing like a baseball you wanna put your mouth on, you’ll be down there forever to no avail.

4. Wiping your mouth off after isn’t required, necessarily, but it’s definitely the polite thing to do. The women of Sex and the City had a roundtable brunch discussion about this same topic, and while there is no Emily Post Guide to oral sex, this would definitely be included. You wouldn’t want a face full of your own jizz, would you? Neither do I.

5. Just because it’s called “oral sex” doesn’t mean you can’t incorporate things that aren’t mouths too. Get creative down there buddy. If you’ve been at it with just your tongue for like, ten minutes, and nothing’s happening, get some fingers or a toy involved. Bring in all the benched players you can.

6. We secretly love it when you say things like, “You taste good,” or, “Your vagina is beautiful like a princess” (maybe that’s too far but you get it). Part of the reason oral sex is ~intimidating~ is because it’s a bit personal to have someone’s face right in your most private part. Think of this as compliment foreplay, because vagina insecurity is real, especially with all the pressure to smell like a field of flowers all the time. It’s flattering and nice to hear that you had a pleasant experience in my nether regions.

7. Don’t pull away the second we come, like the ride has just come (lol) to an abrupt halt. Women’s orgasms aren’t typically over in a split second. When we come, all those nerve endings are aflame and firing on all systems — so basically, everything you’re doing is intensified by like a million percent. Give me a minute (or five) to fully enjoy this blessed experience before pulling away and moving on.

8. Just licking it over and over like a popsicle is not the hottest thing we’ve ever experienced. Don’t change patterns so much I can’t even keep up with what you’re doing, but also don’t just settle into a rhythm and location, assuming that eventually I’ll just come.

9. If you’re annoyed that you can’t manage to make us come, just man up and ask for directions. Most women won’t mind kindly coaching you through the experience, I get it, there’s a lot to work with down there. This only benefits both of us.

10. Putting too much pressure doesn’t feel sexy, it just feels like I’m riding a weird, wet see-saw. There are like, 8,000 nerve endings in the clit alone, compared to about 4,000 in the penis. So think about doing oral sex half as hard as you’d jack off. This changes from woman to woman, but light pressure is usually better than jamming your tongue into my vagina, full force. Like, I should barely be able to feel your tongue. Easy does it.

11. Just like actual sex, we can do this in different positions so things don’t get too ~vanilla~. There’s room for creativity here, people. Mix it up, try new things. It doesn’t have to be missionary oral sex every single time.

12. It’s probably gonna take a while, so get comfy down there. Not because it just straight-up takes women longer to come than men (it doesn’t), but because of a lot of other factors (kinda nerve-wracking to have someone’s face in your vag, maybe you don’t know what we like yet, etc.). If it’s taking too long, and you’re getting a crick in your neck or something, pop up and ask if there’s anything we’d like you to do.

Holly Willoughby’s pert posterior becomes a talking point thanks to This Morning’s VERY cheeky camera crew… as Trinny Woodall inadvertently calls her ‘cheap’

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Her hourglass figure has helped her acquire quite the following.
But on Tuesday’s episode of This Morning, Holly Willoughby gave her admirers an eyeful thanks to the ITV show’s cheeky camera crew.
As the 35-year-old and her co-host Phillip Schofield journeyed through the studio to move onto a new segment, the scene was filmed from behind

Her hourglass figure has helped her acquire quite the following.

But on Tuesday’s episode of This Morning, Holly Willoughby gave her admirers an eyeful thanks to the ITV show’s cheeky camera crew.

As the 35-year-old and her co-host Phillip Schofield journeyed through the studio to move onto a new segment, the scene was filmed from behind which gave a full view of Holly’s pert posterior.

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b_w-MOL-image-1_800pxUS sex expert Dr Emily Nagoski claims women experience sexual desire in response to gradual pleasure
She suggests women’s sexual impulses are controlled by ‘accelerators and brakes’
Their libido is stifle by worries about getting pregnant and low opinions on their body image
By TOM PAYNE FOR THE DAILY MAIL

There is no such thing as a sex drive for 30 per cent of women, according to a leading psychologist.
US sex expert Dr Emily Nagoski claims women only experience sexual desire in response to gradual pleasure – not as a sudden ‘lightning bolt to the genitals’ as with men.
And when women are turned on, their libido is stifled by stressful thoughts, such as worries about getting pregnant, low opinions of their body image and fears their children might walk in on them, she told Radio 4’s Women’s Hour yesterday,
US sex expert Dr Emily Nagoski claims women only experience sexual desire in response to gradual pleasure

US sex expert Dr Emily Nagoski claims women only experience sexual desire in response to gradual pleasure
Dr Nagoski, who has written a New York Times best-seller Come As You Are on the subject of female desire, said: ‘The standard cultural narrative of sexual desire is that it is something that appears out of the blue, spontaneously […] as a lightning bolt to the genitals.
‘Sometimes it is, and for some per cent of women, and for some per cent of men, that is how they typically experience sexual desire.’

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But she added: ‘Thirty per cent of women, and that number doesn’t seem to vary across age, never or rarely experience that ‘kaboom’ feeling.
‘Instead what they experience is called responsive desire because it emerges in response to pleasure – whereas spontaneous desire emerges in anticipation of pleasure.’
Claiming to shed light on the science of female desire, Dr Nagoski suggests women’s sexual impulses are controlled by ‘accelerators and brakes’ working against each other – meaning a woman can never sustain a sex drive.
The sexual accelerator picks up on ‘everything the brain codes as sexually relevant,’ such as flirty body language and being kissed, and sends a ‘turn on’ signal to the brain.
Dr Nagoski suggests women’s sexual impulses are controlled by ‘accelerators and brakes’ working against each other
Dr Nagoski suggests women’s sexual impulses are controlled by ‘accelerators and brakes’ working against each other
But, she adds, ‘at the same time that that’s happening, there is also the brake – which notices all the very good reasons not to be turned on, specifically all the potential threats […] being distracted about work, relationship conflicts, body image.’
Women who worry they have a low libido must realise they are perfectly normal, Dr Nagoski believes, adding it is common to worry about sex while you’re having it.
They will enjoy better intercourse if they try to remove those distractions by practising techniques to ‘build up immunity’ to self-critical thoughts about their bodies.
One such method recommended by Dr Nagoski involves women standing in front of a mirror and closely observing parts of their body they are proud of.
Dr Nagoski is director of Wellness Education at Smith College, a private women’s liberal arts college Massachusetts.
In her book, Dr Nagoski argues that ‘every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world.’
Women who worry they have a low libido must realise they are perfectly normal, Dr Nagoski believes

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Women who worry they have a low libido must realise they are perfectly normal, Dr Nagoski believes
She says that women should not judge themselves against others sexually, and adds that, for many, their sexual desire only emerges in response to arousal – such as when their partner kisses them.
In an article for the New York Times last month, Dr Nagoski claimed scientists have for decades wrongly believed that sexual desire should come before arousal in women.
‘Researchers have begun to understand that sexual response is not the linear mechanism they once thought it was,’ she wrote.
‘The previous model, originating in the late ’70s, described a lack of ‘sexual fantasies and desire for sexual activity.’
‘It placed sexual desire first, as if it were a hunger, motivating an individual to pursue satisfaction.
‘But it turns out many people (perhaps especially women) often experience desire as responsive, emerging in response to, rather than in anticipation of, erotic stimulation.
‘Arousal first, then desire. Both desire styles are normal and healthy. Neither is associated with pain or any disorder of arousal or orgasm.’

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REST AND SLEEP

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All the parts of the human body work together, although each  one has its especial part to do. The stomach must have a  time to rest between meals. The other parts of the body require rest, too. This they usually get while we are asleep. We must not be neglectful and fail to give them enough rest, or they will soon get worn out and give us trouble.

Sometimes, when people are not well or are all tired out, they find they cannot sleep well at night. There are a number of little things that can be done to induce sleep. A warm bath before retiring, followed by a gentle massage, especially along the spine, often will, by relaxing the nerves and muscles, produce very good results. A hot foot bath, which draws the blood away from the brain, frequently will be found beneficial. A glass of hot milk or cocoa, taken just before retiring, often will have the same effect. If the sleeplessness is a result of indigestion, a plain diet will relieve. Sleeping upon a hard bed without any pillow sometimes produces the desired effect. Always have plenty of fresh air in the room. Keep the mind free from the cares of the day. If they will intrude, crowd them out by repeating something else some soothing sentence or bit of poetry. One good plan is to close the left nostril by pressing on it with the finger, then take four deep breaths through the right nostril. Then close the right nostril and take four deep breaths through the left one. Repeat this about four times. Then breathe slowly through both nostrils, but count your breaths. You seldom will count very many. Never take any sleeping powders or tablets except upon the advice of a physician, for they usually contain drugs that will injure the heart.

You will find that you will meet a number of men who are nervous, which means they have not control of their nerves, but let them run away with them. Sometimes this is shown in palpitation of the heart, headache, backache, and many other disorders. There may be a tendency to cry at trivial things, or a feeling of having “the blues.” The cause usually can be found in uncongenial surroundings or occupation, loss of friends, or real or fancied troubles. Whatever the cause, it should be removed, if possible, and measures taken to restore the worn out nerves that are crying for rest or food. Tonics help, so does nourishing food, such as eggs and milk; also a change of scene and occupation, if possible. A man who is nervous frequently does not realize what is the cause of his condition, and considers only the symptoms. So when he has a headache, resorts to medicine.  In taking these she only is deadening the pain and not removing  the cause, so the pain is liable to return.

Kim Kardashian

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DAILYMAIL.COM REPORTER

There’s no doubt she puts days of planning and preparation into her red carpet looks.
And while Kim Kardashian’s face always looks flawless, thanks to her makeup artist Mario Dedivanovic, the talented pro revealed this week that his job often entails getting very hands on with the reality star.
On Friday Mario shared a variety of behind the scenes photos from the MTV VMAs on her website www.kimkardashianwest.com showing him applying body makeup to some of Kim’s more private areas.

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It’s a tough job! Kim Kardashian’s makeup artist Mario Dedivanovic has shared a snap revealing that he job often involves some body work
The 36-year-old KUWTK star is seen bending over a chair as Mario tends to her legs making sure they look sleek and bronzed.
Kim wears a plunging black vintage Galliano dress which is hiked up slightly to reveal nude coloured Spanx.
Along with the images, Mario wrote: ‘Hey guys. I wanted to share some behind-the-scenes pics from one of my favorite looks that we did in 2016.
‘Here’s a sneak peek of what really goes on before a big red carpet event. When a girl needs her body make up I gotta get to work. Tough job, LOL. xo Mario’
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In other snaps Kim is seen sitting with her legs akimbo as Mario tends to her inner thighs
Flawless: The reality star said she was inspired by her summer trip to Mexico to create wet look hair and effortless sunkissed look. She is pictured with husband Kanye West at the VMAs
The end result was a sexy bronze look Kim said was inspired by her summer trip to Mexico.
‘We were all so inspired by the beach hair and light makeup I did during a photoshoot at Casa Aramara!’ she wrote in August.
Kim’s most recent red carpet-worthy look was for the Kardashian Christmas party over the weekend when she wore a gold frilled gown and black choker with lace-up booties.
The mother-of-two brushed off rumours of trouble in her marriage as she posed alongside husband Kanye West and her two children North and Saint.
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Busty Lauryn Goodman shows off her extremely peachy posterior in a gold swimsuit

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By REBECCA LAWRENCE FOR DAILY MAIL
She’s been on a new diet and fitness plan to tone up for the New Year.
And Lauryn Goodman showed off the incredible effects of her healthy new lifestyle as she slipped into a skimpy gold swimsuit.
Looking enviably toned and curvaceous, the 24-year-old beauty blogger oozed glamour as she soaked up the sunshine in Mykonos.

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High cut in design, the garment also showed off her extremely peachy posterior as she strolled along the beach.
Sweeping her ombre locks away from her face, she slicked her glossy tresses into a high ponytail that exposed her flawless features.
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Layering up, Lauryn then donned a floor length white beach dress with a Grecian style golden belt.
Featuring a thigh high split and plunging neckline, the garment still offered a look at her tanned and toned physique.
Lauryn finished off the look with a pair of oversized shades and a large Louis Vuitton handbag.

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Lauryn has enjoyed a taste of fame as the elder sister of Ex On The Beach star, Chloe Goodman.
She has since become a staple on the reality show scene due to her circle of friends.
Lauryn not only runs her own beauty blog, but is the owner of fashion brand Nineteen Clothing.

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Lady Victoria Hervey

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Turning the other cheek! Lady Victoria Hervey flaunts her stunningly svelte frame in a bold lime green swimsuit

She’s been glued to the beach this festive season.
And Lady Victoria Hervey, 40, showed off her super svelte bronzed frame once again on Friday as she stepped out in Bridgetown, Barbados.
Despite the Caribbean sunshine, the aristocrat looked to be feeling a bit nippy as she sauntered across the white sand in a stylish lime green one piece.3bb8708500000578-0-image-a-21_1483122317325
Feeling nippy: Lady Victoria Hervey, 40, showed off her super svelte bronzed frame once again on Friday as she stepped out in Bridgetown, Barbados
Its unusual cut showed off her slender side and part of her toned midriff, while the one strap and low cut of the chest displayed her delicate decolletage.
The socialite looked to have embraced the vibrant nature of the island, donning a colourful bandana for her day at the beach.